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Odd question, I am an IT Manager (with ZERO SQL experience) but 30 years in IT, mainly networking and system administration. We have a third-party consultant that handles the SQL server. We host a total of 6.6573 TB of data. Our server has 256 GB of RAM and we are using on average 96% of that RAM. Any suggestions to get this RAM usage under control? It seems like a high percentage, however, I know the bare minimum when it comes to SQL.