5. Boundaries. This is pretty similar to #4. Setting up very clear, consistent rules for yourself and how you demand to be treated. If your wife wants a husband, shouldn't she treat you like one? Online affairs, neglecting the family, adding random dudes to her facebook isn't "wife behavior". She may try to minimize it, but she knows this. Since you can't change HER behavior, and she has a right to behave "unwifely like", you need to decide what boundaries are necessary to protect you from the pain her treatment of you causes you. Do you leave? If you stay, what needs to happen so you can have some level of peace? Would that mean refusing to pay for certain bills in the home, like internet, computer stuff?